18 Frasa yang perlu dielakkan semasa bercakap

Walau apapun bahasa yang digunakan, perkataan baik yang keluar dari mulut penuturnya akan menggambarkan peribadinya, sama ada ia seorang yang berhemah dan berbudi bahasa atau seorang yang kasar dan tidak memperdulikan perasaan orang lain.

Hadis Nabi SAW: Dari Abu Hurairah radhiallahuanhu, sesungguhnya Rasulullah Shallallahu’alaihi wasallam bersabda: Siapa yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat hendaklah dia berkata baik atau diam, siapa yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat hendaklah dia menghormati tetangganya dan barangsiapa yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat maka hendaklah dia memuliakan tamunya (Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim).

Oleh itu, bercakaplah dengan perkataan yang baik yang tidak menyinggung perasaan atau menyebabkan orang terasa hati. Kata-kata yang baik juga adalah sedekah.

Berikut dipaparkan beberapa frasa kata yang baik dan tidak baik yang boleh dijadikan panduan atau pengajaran dalam kehidupan seharian….. semoga bermanfaat.

18 Common Phrases to Avoid in Conversation

By Kristyn Kusek Lewis

Some things should never be said―like these phrases. Here, what to say instead.

What Not to Say About Someone’s Appearance

Don’t say: “You look tired.”
Why: It implies she doesn’t look good.
Instead say: “Is everything OK?” We often blurt the “tired” comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.

Don’t say: “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: “You look fantastic.” And leave it at that. If you’re curious about how she got so svelte, add, “What’s your secret?”

Don’t say: “You look good for your age.”
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It’s saying, “You look great―compared with other old people. It’s amazing you have all your own teeth.”
Instead say: “You look great.”

Don’t say: “I could never wear that.”
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. (“I could never wear that because it’s so ugly.”)
Instead say: “You look so good in skinny jeans.” If you slip, say something like “I could never wear that…because I wasn’t blessed with your long legs.”

What Not to Say in the Workplace

Don’t say: “That’s not my job.”
Why: If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say: “I’m not sure that should be my priority right now.” Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities.

Don’t say: “This might sound stupid, but…”
Why: Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say: What’s on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.

Don’t say: “I don’t have time to talk to you.”
Why: It’s plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say: “I’m just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I’m done?” Graciously explain why you can’t talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.

What Not to Say During a Job Interview

Don’t say: “My current boss is horrendous.”
Why: It’s unprofessional. Your interviewer might wonder when you’d start bad-mouthing her. For all you know, she and your current boss are old pals.
Instead say: “I’m ready for a new challenge” or a similarly positive remark.

Don’t say: “Do you think I’d fit in here?”
Why: You’re the interviewee, not the interviewer.
Instead say: “What do you enjoy about working here?” By all means ask questions, but prepare ones that demonstrate your genuine interest in the company.

Don’t say: “What are the hours like?” or “What’s the vacation policy?”
Why: You want to be seen as someone who focuses on getting the job done.
Instead say: “What’s the day-to-day like here?” Then, if you’ve really jumped through every hoop and time off still hasn’t been mentioned, say, “Can you tell me about the compensation and benefits package?”

What Not to Say About Pregnancy and Babies

Don’t say: “Are you pregnant?”
Why: You ask, she’s not, and you feel totally embarrassed for essentially pointing out that she’s overweight.
Instead say: “Hello” or “Great to see you” or “You look great.” Anything besides “Are you pregnant?” or “What’s the due date?” will do. Save yourself the humiliation and never ask.

Don’t say: “Do you plan on breast-feeding?”
Why: The issue can be controversial, and she may not want to discuss her decision publicly.
Instead say: “Nothing. Unless you’re very close, don’t ask. If you slip, make up for the blunder by adding, “And do you feel comfortable telling me?”

Don’t say: “Were your twins natural?” or “It must have been hard for your child’s birth parent to give him up.”
Why: You’re suggesting that natural conception is better than in vitro fertilization (IVF) or adoption.
Instead say: To a parent of multiples, try a light “Wow, you have your hands full!” To an adoptive parent, say the same stuff you would to any other parent: “She’s adorable!” or “How old is he?”

What Not to Say to a Single (or Newly Single) Person

Don’t say: “You were too good for him.”
Why: You are basically saying she has bad taste. And you’ll be embarrassed if they ever patch it up.
Instead say: “His loss!” It gets the same point across without disparaging her judgment.

Don’t say: “I’m glad you got rid of him. I never liked him anyway.”
Why: She’ll wonder about your fake adoration for him while they were together.
Instead say: “I’m confident you’ll find someone who will give you exactly what you want.” It focuses on what’s to come, not on the dud you’re glad she’s done with.

Don’t say: “How could someone as perfect as you still be single?”
Why: A statement like this comes off as a backhanded compliment. What she hears is “What’s wrong with you?”
Instead say: “Seeing anyone?” If she’s tight-lipped about her love life, move on to other topics.

What Not to Say During a Fight with Your Beloved

Don’t say: “You always” or “You never” or “You’re a [slob, jerk]” or “You’re wrong.”
Why: Speaking in absolutes like “you always” and “you’re wrong” is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse.
Instead say: “I’m upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?” Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he’s in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.

Don’t say: “If you really loved me, you would…”
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he’ll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you’ll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn’t a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: “I feel taken for granted when you don’t help around the house. I would feel better if we could…” The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you’re upset and then offer a solution.


Makanan bagi kulit cantik berseri

Selain bagi menjaga kesihatan, makanan yang berkhasiat juga berguna bagi menjaga kecantikan fizikal terutamanya kulit, rambut dan kuku. Sesetengah orang sangat mementingkan bentuk fizikalnya. Oleh itu, bagi mereka yang mementingkan kecantikan kulit eloklah mengambil makanan seperti yang disarankan dalam artikel di bawah ini yang mana kesannya terus kepada kulit, menjadikan kulit licin dan berseri.

Lima makanan yang disarankan bagi menjaga kecantikan kulit ialah ubi keledek, kiwi, coklat gelap, yogurt, kekacang dan bijirin. Cubalah amalkan, insya Allah bermanfaat….

5 Foods for Glowing Skin

By RealBeauty.com

What you eat is important for your health, yes, but did you realize that what you put in your mouth can have an effect on your beauty, too? Here, we identified five foods to include in your diet for glowing skin.

Sweet Potatoes

Keep your skin silky smooth by including sweet potatoes in your diet. They are rich in beta-carotene and, when ingested, are converted into vitamin A, a prime factor in keeping skin touchably soft, says Lisa Drayer, MA, RD, and nutritionist. Not a potato person? Carrots will do the trick, too.


Any food with lots of vitamin C, like kiwi, oranges, and grapefruit, is a big skin saver, according to Drayer. Vitamin C stimulates collagen synthesis and protects against wrinkles. In a study done by the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, women who had a diet high in vitamin C foods had noticeably less dryness and fewer wrinkles.

Dark Chocolate

This has to be too good to be true, right? Wrong! Drayer says enjoying a small piece of dark chocolate will provide high levels of cocoa flavanols, which have been associated with softer, more hydrated skin. Notice we said small. Eating a jumbo Hershey’s bar probably won’t make you look or feel very good after the fact.


Yogurt makes your skin and nails glow, according to Paula Simpson, international nutritionist and beauty expert. It’s a good source of protein and has been found in clinical studies to help stimulate fat metabolism and whittle your waistline. An added bonus: Drayer says thanks to the biotin found in yogurt, it helps increase nail strength.

Nuts and seeds

Snack on some almonds or sunflower seeds, says Robyn Flipse, MS, RD. They contain anti-inflammatory and immunity-enhancing nutrients, including vitamin E, that help reduce skin flare-ups.


Makanan bagi rambut sihat

Seperti bahagian badan yang lain, rambut juga memerlukan nutrien tertentu untuk membolehkannya menjadi kuat, bersinar, bermaya dan bagi menghindari keguguran rambut yang tidak normal.

Zat makanan (nutrien) yang diperlukan untuk mendapatkan rambut yang sihat ialah protein, asid lemak omega-3, vitamin B-6, vitamin B-12, asid folik, buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran segar, dan mineral seperti magnesium dan zink.

Sumber makanan bagi nutrien ini disebutkan dalam artikel berikut….

Diet and Healthy Hair

A healthy diet can help your hair stay strong and lustrous. Your diet can also prevent hair loss. In fact, very specific nutritional deficiencies can affect your hair.

Essential fatty acids — especially omega-3 fatty acids — play a key role in skin, hair, and nails. You should eat some of these foods, which are rich in omega-3, every day:

* Salmon, tuna, mackerel, and other fatty fish
* Flaxseed oil
* Walnuts and almonds

Vitamins B-6, B-12, and folic acid are also important to your hair. Vegetarians and vegans often don’t get enough of these vitamins.

Good sources of vitamin B-6 include bananas, potatoes (both white and sweet), and spinach.

Eating plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables — especially citrus fruits and tomatoes — will help you get folic acid. Whole grain and fortified grain products, beans, and lentils also contain folic acid. Major sources of B-12 include meat, poultry, fish, and dairy products.

Protein is also critical for keeping hair healthy, but many people don’t get enough. Lean meat like fish, chicken, eggs, and soy products are good sources of protein; eat one serving every day.

Because trace minerals like magnesium and zinc also affect hair, it’s a good idea to take a daily multivitamin.


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